The Power of Your Smile

When I was in second grade my classroom was at the end of the main long hallway of classes in our elementary school. Every morning I’d have to walk by all of the kindergarten, first & second grade teachers. I remember passing by teachers as they stood outside their classroom and smile at them. I later found out that many of those teachers made a point to tell my mom that they purposefully always made sure they were around in the hallway to see me walk by because my smile always brightened their day. This has been a theme that has played out many many times in my life. How my one smile could brighten a room and cheer up someone’s day. 

This memory came to mind recently as I was reflecting on some of my first memories of helping people. Even though I may not have helped them in a major significant way I feel it was a beautiful reminder as to the simplicity of brightening someone’s day. That it really doesn’t take much of ourselves to show and extend kindness to others. I know that sometimes I forget this and will get in my own head and be having a bad day and not wanting to connect with anyone so my head is down or I completely avoid eye contact. It is those days I probably most need to bring a smile to my face or maybe be on the lookout for a smile towards me. 

I’ve been practicing giving more of my smiles away lately and it really begins to stir up more joy and makes smiling contagious. It’s funny how we can forget the power of our smile. 

There is a lake near where I live that has a huge nice walking path around it and because we’ve been treated with some really nice weather lately (I still can’t believe it’s been in the 60’s in November in Missouri!) and I’ve been finding so many people wanting to make that connection of a smile as we walk past each other. It feels like a simple yet powerful gesture. I love the surprised faces of some when I smile at them unexpected, and others I can feel their sadness and how being seen and acknowledged just reminded them of their innate worth. 

As we head full steam ahead into the holiday season let’s gift others with our smiles more often. If you aren’t in a place to lift up others in this way then be on the lookout for someone to smile at you. This can be a season of utter joy and happiness for some and for others a time of loneliness and missing friends and family. This one simple act that takes nothing away from us can have a ripple effect that we may never know about from that one smile. I’d like to leave you this week with a cute little poem from Russell H. Conwell:

Smiling is infectious
You catch it like the flu
When someone smiled at me today
I started smiling too
I passed around the corner and someone saw my grin
When he smiled I realized I’d passed it on to him
I thought about that smile
Then I realized it’s worth
A single smile just like mine
Could travel round the earth
So, if you feel a smile begin
Don’t leave it undetected
Let’s start an epidemic quick
And get the world infected!



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Transformation Coaching

I’ve been finding lately that there lacks clarity on what a transformation coach is. I’ve come across people who are confused on how this differs from therapy and how coaching could be beneficial. So today I’d like to break this down some on my approach to what transformation coaching is and isn’t. 

First off, my personal approach is that no one is broken. We are all capable adults who have seen our fair share of challenges in life but we are not broken because of this. We have been confused, hurt, and sometimes not fully sure on how to transform where we’ve been (if it hasn’t been pleasant) to where we desire to be. When I coach people I don’t come from a place of wondering what’s wrong but from a place of where are you feeling stuck and letting me reflect back at you the power you hold within that you’ve forgotten about or know about and are ready to unleash it into the world. This for me is the basis of Transformation Coaching. Let’s take where you are and transform it into who you want to be and want you desire to achieve.

Transformation Coaching is NOT assumptive. It IS gathering information by asking questions and intuitively listening to help reflect back at you the missing pieces of the puzzle. 

Transformation Coaching is NOT giving advice or opinions. It IS about listening, questioning, reflecting, empowering, being supportive, and for me, teaching tools and techniques when appropriate. 

Transformation Coaching is NOT about me. It IS about you, it’s about the work, which is you. You are the work. 

Transformation Coaching is NOT predictable. It IS about the dance with being comfortable with uncertainty. I can’t know what you will take away from our time together, that is up to you to do with the information you receive with our time together. You have to implement and take the actions that you feel called to take and to know you are supported in the process.

Transformation Coaching is NOT therapy. It IS a supportive space to facilitate your internal guidance. We may touch on past experiences only as a catalyst for recognition on where a behavior or pattern originated but the focus will be on what you are willing and wanting to do about it moving forward to create the change you desire. 

Transformation Coaching is NOT coach-driven. It IS client-driven. I want to know what changes you are hoping to make, how you know when you’ll get there, and provide a space for exploration around that change with tools, techniques, and powerful questions. 

These are just a few of the top bullet points to help break down what transformation coaching is and isn’t. I have personally found transformation coaching to be the missing piece for me on my journey. I have found amazing benefits in all of the work, trainings, and healers I have gone to up to this point and will continue to use and be supported by these modalities, but to help me truly transform some deep seeded beliefs and patterns is where I’ve found the shifts I’ve been looking for through Transformation Coaching.

I’ve also tried to do this work on my own without a mentor or coach or teacher guiding me and let me tell you it’s been super challenging and extends the process to get the results I was looking for. Being accountable to someone, for someone to reflect back at me what they see and what patterns they are catching that I’m not, has been priceless. For someone to hold space for me and see what all I’m capable of is radically healing and empowering in itself. 

I’m not sure if you can tell but I’m extremely stoked to be adding this modality to how I work with clients. I’m constantly training and learning new information so that I can serve you to the best of my ability. I like to think of myself as a Special Agent to elevate you to the next level in your life. The world needs us to step more fully into our purpose and it’s easier to do that when we know we have a team of people on our side, rooting for us, seeing us, and empowering us to boldly step into our personal power more fully. I know my mission is to hold this powerful space for others to elevate. 

Thanks for continuing to support and follow along this journey of mine and for trusting me to bring you information that I hope you find inspiring, elevating, helpful, and compassionate. 



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Roots to Fruits

Last week I kicked off a new, year-long training by spending a week on the coast of Oregon with a small cohort of humans who are dreamers, leaders, coaches, and healers. We are individuals who hear the call for our purpose, are stepping into it by deepening our understanding of who we are, what value we bring to the table, and how best to make an impact to serve the greater good through support of others. No big deal. 

This year-long journey is called Awaken Your Life led by Andrea Leda and the retreat last week was incredibly immersive. We are learning all the tools and techniques to help others but we have to experience them ourselves firsthand and words can’t explain how epic and magical the week was. 

One of the models we work with is called Roots to Fruits. It’s the concept that the things we desire or are already showing up in our lives are ‘Fruits’. This includes the physical things we have or don’t have (money, house, physical health, etc), as well as the feelings we strive for (peace, love, inspiration, connection, etc), and the relationships & friendships we crave. This is our feedback system. We assess what is working for us and what isn’t. From here, we can begin to see what seeds we’ve planted to receive the fruits. We look at the stories we tell ourselves, our habits, patterns, beliefs, purpose, etc, to see what fruit might be growing from what seed. These are called ‘Roots’. Through the coaching work I do, it is these roots that we are digging into. We find out what roots are working for you and which ones aren’t so that we can alter those that are no longer serving you and find new ones that are more in alignment with who you are now and where you are want to go. 

I’ve been personally doing this work for awhile now and bringing to light a lot of beliefs and stories that aren’t supporting where I want to go. This retreat uncovered even more for me and I’ve walked away feeling different from the inside out. All the positive affirmations these past years to change the outside fruits were only quick fixes. It never scratched the surface of aligning ourselves to the deep inner work needed to experience and achieve what we know deep down is possible on the outside. 

Putting into words what I experienced this past week feels impossible. Epic, magical, transformative, sacred could be a few words to describe my experience but it just doesn’t do it justice for some reason. I laughed until I snorted, cried the deepest of tears, I danced, I was angry, I coached, I was coached, and I expanded my view of the world and myself. But isn’t this life? All feelings are a part of it.

I believe that we are spiritual beings having human experiences. We weren’t given guidebooks on how to do this. We suffer because our spiritual being can achieve, accomplish and access what we crave so easily, but our human nature has to integrate and try to figure out how this chaos all works. We resist the feelings and experiences we have. We look for the quick fix, the perfect mantra, the magic pill, the lottery ticket. We want to go every which way around the feelings we have, but rarely through them. Yet this is where transformation happens. To allow ourselves to experience what we keep hidden. To bring the unconscious stories, beliefs and patterns to the conscious mind and use our own personal power to decide how we want to move forward. 

I’m so incredibly stoked to be sharing this very powerful work with you. I’m excited to share more of my story, what I do, who I work with, and why I do it all because now I have way more clarity on how I want my work to show up in the world.

If you are a dreamer, leader, teacher, or healer who is an empath and struggles with chronic pain, depression, anxiety, or undiagnosed illnesses, who is intrigued by looking inward then we should talk. You are the next wave of lightworkers. It’s time to release our burdens and the burdens of others we carry so that we may shine and serve and inspire others. The world is waiting for you.